wiener dogs stuck in sleeves are my new favorite thing
I’m a part of the Asian minority, and I am proud of my heritage. Growing up being the minority alone has been difficult, but I never knew how much a struggle love would be. I’m not a conventional beauty here in the South. I was never the first girl boys approached based on looks, and though at first that disappointed me, now I could care less. When we’re younger, because we haven’t quite found who we are as an individual, comparisons weigh in our heads quite a lot more than when we’re older. I used to be upset because I wasn’t as pretty as ____ or didn’t look like ____. Those thoughts never consumed me, but they were still fleeting thoughts. I think, due to not wanting to stand out as much since I already stood out so much a minority, my introspective side grew. I analyzed everything, and I still do. I appreciate not being the first girl guys approach because the ones that do are more attracted into what I say and how I act—who I am—instead of what I look like. Not to say they don’t appreciate what I look like, but I, personally, would rather their memory of me emphasize my personality rather than my appearance, which will fade over the years. I find that most of my friends and myself these days have more of the, “well this is how I am, so take it or leave it.” Thus, I’d rather them look back on our memories together and be able to laugh because we had a good time or I told a really bad joke instead of looking back and thinking about how pretty I was at the time. When I’m old and wrinkly, I know I’m going to have a much better time laughing about memories with someone than remembering how they looked.
I’ve loved and been loved by a handful of guys, gone through the silly dating antics of our generation, and endured heartbreak on both sides. Now I have found someone who I believe loves me for who I was, am, and will be. He hasn’t needed to tell me he loves me; I just know. I have enjoyed all the laughter so far, and I know there’s more to come.
Find someone who can make you laugh and treat you right, not in just romance but in friendship too. I’ll be so lucky at the end of my life to be able to look back and say that I had true friends.